I was surfing the other night–reading one person’s blog, clicking on her links and finding another person’s blog. Don’t ask me where I started or how many links I followed but at some point, I found myself on Miriam Kamin’s blog, Woulda Coulda Shoulda. It is actually a saying of mine when I’m procrastinating: ShouldaCouldaWoulda-Didn’t. It helps remind me that I make the choices for what I do or do not do. But, I stuck around on this blog for a couple of reasons:
- She writes about her kids. Kids are funny and it makes me feel a little better knowing that other people have children who do totally bizarre things for no apparent reason. It gives me hope. Also, her kids are the same age as my older two, so I could really relate to some of the antics. In reality though, her children are not as bizarre as mine.
- She’s a good writer. I suppose this really should be reason number 1, but I gravitate towards people I can relate to and I noticed her children before I noticed her writing. However, if her writing hadn’t been good, I never would have stuck around long enough to discover I liked her writing.
- She makes a living writing blogs. And books. And she’s received awards. And she’s been published in print. She writes for a TON of blogs–those where quite good too. I really like The Daily Grommet— a site that reviews different, interesting, not your everyday objects.
So I’m staying up way too late looking at Mir’s site thinking, “Wow, how cool is this. She totally has the life I want to lead. She is so lucky and I am so unlucky and I think I need to start hating her because she has everything that I want. She has my life.”
And then God said, “Stop being ridiculous.”
And of course, being that he’s God, he was entirely right. Mir doesn’t have MY life. She has HER life. She has her ups and downs and more than likely looks at someone else and thinks that THEY have it all together, and that her life sucks. No, she’s probably way more stable than that. Oh, who am I kidding–she’s a WRITER, of course she has esteem issues. And she’s a mother. With those things weighing on her, it’s a miracle she gets out of bed in the morning. Oops, sorry, talking about me again.
So what is it that makes us think that God only has so much goodness to go around? Do we really think that God’s up in heaven saying, “Oh, sorry about that. I was going to make you a successful actor but I just gave away the last of my ‘successful actor’ talents away.” Do we, as parents ever say to our children, “Sorry, I used up my quota of food/love/kisses/hope on your sister. You are going to have to just be average.” Of course not. Just as we want the best for our children, God wants the best for us. And JUST like us (only better), God sees the bigger picture. There was one day where the Girl wanted to do something–I don’t remember what it was–the mall, the movies, a friend coming over–just something that SHE wanted to do. NOW! However, her father and I had planned something else and wanted it to be a surprise. She was furious at me refusing her request–how could I be so mean? Why didn’t I love her. If I would only let her do what she was asking to do, then her life would be perfect. But I saw the bigger picture. I knew that she could do both her plans and our plans and I knew, in the end, that she would like our plans better. So I said no to her plans and told her to be patient. I might as well have told her to grow wings. As a 9 year old girl to be patient? Get real. That’s like asking a 40 year old woman to be patient. Oh wait, me again.
So I have to believe that God sees the bigger picture. If I use the talents that He’s given me, they will multiply and work for his purpose. Does that mean I’ll be the next Stephen King? Maybe. Maybe not. Does that mean I’ll be content and satisfied with my writing. It should. But I’m human and very likely will find someone else who is the next Six Million Dollar Man–better, stronger, faster. Kids, go ask your parents who I’m talking about.
Ironically, Mir’s path is similar to mine. She is just further along– or perhaps her path is TOTALLY different from mine and for just a moment they are crossing. When I was reading her work, she talked about having a LinkedIn profile and since I’m on LinkedIn, I looked her up. Now this is a woman I randomly found on the Internet and she is actually “linked” to one of my friends in Atlanta, GA. I find that fascinating that one person can be connected to another person, just like that. Perhaps it is a good reminder that we are all linked together in this world.