As with most things, with time comes revisions. After thinking and praying about my personal commandments, I altered/modified and cheated. Nothing like cheating on a personal statement to grow as a person. I REALLY wanted to have more than 10 commandments so I combined one of them, and deleted “live authentically.” I reasoned that if I followed my 10 commandments then I WILL be living authentically.
I decided to “cheat” by combining “seek God, model Christ.” Is it one commandment or two? Even the bible has questions about the ten commandments. Some denominations (Anglican, reformed, orthodox and other) consider “You shall have no other gods before me” and “You shall not make for yourself an idol” as two and “You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife” and “You shall not covet anything that belongs to your neighbor” as one, while other denominations (Catholic and Lutheran) see them the opposite way.
Actually, in the long run, I probably only need two commandments: Seek God and model Christ. Doing those two things would likely cover all my other commandments–except of course the “not knowing” because God is all knowing.
I tried to use action verbs–things that show and are measurable–although I guess you can’t show “assume.” But I wanted to make sure my commandments weren’t something like “be happy.” How do you “be happy”? But I can “choose” happy. I can make the decision that when faced with happiness and unhappiness, I can pick happiness.
Also, I made sure not to use contractions or negatives. I was told, long ago, that children cannot understand contractions or negatives. It’s almost like they can’t hear the “n’t”. You say, “Don’t jump on the sofa” or “Don’t hit your sister” and they HEAR “Do jump on the sofa” and “DO hit your sister.” Instead, you are supposed to say what they CAN do– “Jump on the floor” or “Tell your sister you are angry.” I’ve actually TESTED this and it SEEMS to work with my kids.
I didn’t like the word “assume.” It means (besides the @$$ out of U and ME) “suppose to be the case, without proof; take for granted.” PRESUME means “suppose that something is the case on the basis of probability; take for granted that something exists or is the case.” I tend to be analytical and scientific in my thinking and want to base others intention on probability rather than suppose without proof. My 10th grade science teacher would be proud.
More about each of these in future blogs.
- Come from a place of yes
- Promote laughter
- Demonstrate patience
- Seek God, model Christ
- Assume Presume good intentions
- Live authentically Live in a glass house
- Embrace love
- Choose happiness
- Model Christ Surrender to not knowing
- Express gratitude